I don’t believe in adoption.Yes, its really THAT simple.
I’ve tried to play nice w/ those who disagree on my perspectives about it…my conclusion thus far, nice is over-fucking-rated.
This is my blog and its not here to change your views. I’m not here to reach a hand across the bridge and form an alliance of all different perspectives and “walks” in adoption. I don’t want your help nor do i need your help. If you feel differently than I do, then at least you’re human, pat yourself on the back and spare the judgmental comment, i’ll just delete it anyways. In fact, I could probably argue your argument on why adoption is beautiful and then counter it w/ my position and spare you the heart attack, but in the end, i’m still right and you’re still wrong so neener neener.
If you’re part of the offended category don’t let the door hit you on the way out. If you like what you see and find yourself screaming “HELL YES!” then you fucking rock.
Lets take a few birds out w/ one stone shall we?
I am…
Adopted
In reunion
A member of Koolaid Drinkers Anonymous, put that bottle down 9 years ago 
Yes, I love all 4 of my parents
Yes, I disagree with adoption and wouldn’t adopt a child…ever.
What you can expect to see here…
Legislative action, opinions on adoption
What you won’t see here…
White flags
my, old “about me” page just for the curious minded…
12 responses so far ↓
Natalie Jones // July 27, 2009 at 6:27 am |
The Unsealed Initiative is NOT “anti-adoption” and neither are the rest of the groups you have listed. They are PRO adoptee rights! Please change the title of your page to reflect the CORRECT sentiments of the groups who are working so hard for all of us who were adopted.
Gershom // July 27, 2009 at 10:54 am |
Hi Natalie I am aware of that. This is my blog, and I specifically am anti adoption. I also believe in and support open records for adopted people. I was not and have never said that unsealed initiative is anti adoption, i am well aware they are not. HOwever I was supporting them and their efforts.
Gershom // July 27, 2009 at 11:24 am |
BTW which “rest” of the groups I have listed are you talking about? just out of curiosity…
jake // July 30, 2009 at 12:14 pm |
it’s so refreshing to read this! Go you!
Gershom // July 30, 2009 at 3:11 pm |
hey jake! we know eachother from AAAFC
i just read your blog and saw your post there from the boards 
nice work! nice to see you too 
Gershom
Brielle Nikaido // August 17, 2009 at 1:35 pm |
Dear Anti-Adoption,
We hear a lot in the media about celebrities adopting Asian babies, adoptive parents who adopt these babies, and most recently about trafficking of children through adoption. But, we rarely hear from those Asian adoptees. Read what Asian adoptees have to say about adoption and trafficking in this month’s issue of Conducive. Three adoptee authored articles are online now and two more are coming this month.
links removed by gershom
Sincerely,
Brielle Nikaido
Associate Editor/Media Director
Conducive
Conducivemag.com
bnikaido@conducivemag.com
Gershom // October 11, 2009 at 11:23 am |
eww are you kidding me? I don’t “rarely” hear from “asian” adoptees, i read their blogs weekly and hear quite enough of them. I’m editing out your magazine links from your own company. Dont advertise that brainwashed shit here dude.
kim b // October 2, 2009 at 1:58 pm |
What would you like to see in place of adoption and what are your ideas for getting us there? (I apologize if you have already explained this elsewhere). I think you make some very valid points (in the things I have read….however, it is hard for me to keep reading because the level of anger and hostility is palpable). While I am absolutely NOT anti-adoption, I am not adopted so I do not have the same level of experience as you do. I am a social worker and I have seen first hand the ugly underbelly of foster care and of adoption as well as some more positive things. I am interested in a dialogue here. I am sincerely interested in your thoughts and perspectives.
Gershom // October 11, 2009 at 11:16 am |
hey kim. Yeah, I am angry. Many of us are. People from all sides and views on adoption get very heated especially on this blog. Its such a personal, passionate topic, to separate yourself from is hard to do sometimes. As much as i’d like to say that all parents can raise their children, I believe somewhere in the world there will always be a child who needs help from people who are not his/her natural parents. There will always be a child who needs to be raised by replacement parents. For these children, ( of which i don’t believe the numbers would be in alarming rates like they are now ) I invision a system where the child is honored, respected, and has rights. Where their names, records and identity are kept in tact. Where their needs are met and the placement into a new home becomes one which is there for them, not there for their childless parents, not there to reduce the statistics of a states child welfare system. Not one which the replacement parents are trying to live off of their new foster childs payment. Or where the child must change his/her name and become a part of that family. I see a system where the lies are removed and it truly becomes about the CHILD. Where the childs needs are addressed individually because we all come from different places.
dee // October 8, 2009 at 8:07 am |
Thank you greatly for the work you are doing. Some may consider the ‘unsealed’ as anti adoption because of the tremendous amount of lies that would be revealed. That will be a bit harmful to pro-adoption.
Gershom // October 11, 2009 at 11:09 am |
Hey dee thanks. I’m not pro adoption, in fact, i’d like to see the industry as a whole abolished and rebuilt all together. So anti-adoption suits me just fine. My beliefs go far beyond sealed records. Child exploitation, coercion of children from their mothers, child policy laws, countrys forcing surrender etc. so much. Too much to list.
Connie // November 18, 2009 at 3:18 pm |
I was adopted at age 8. My adopted mom was adopted at age 14. I adopted two Romanian orphans, ages 6 & 4. There are 150 million streetkids globally. Kids who AREN’T adopted don’t go to loving homes when they leave institutional care. They graduate to the streets. Look in the sewers of Bucharest to find thousands or the back streets of Brazil. Check out the child slaves in India or child soldiers in Africa. Thousands of teens age out of foster care each year to what? Do you think the bio families who abused, neglected or couldn’t care for them will welcome them home with loving arms?
The “replacement” parents take on huge challenges when they adopt a child who feels rejected. Ever heard of reactive attachment disorder? RAD kids fail to bond at an early age and they are quite a challenge. I know. They constantly test their parents.
While you are up there on your bandwagon slamming ‘replacement’ parents, think about the kids who NEVER get a home. I was so lucky to be adopted after suffering years of abuse, neglect and incest. I was no picnic for the loving couple who wanted me. My two kids have also had emotional challenges. Daughter had cigarette burns on her scalp. Son had failure to thrive.
The world terrible for any child who feels unwanted. I grew up with that feeling. I was locked in dark closets repeatedly and beaten nightly. I would trade the 8 years with my bio family in a heartbeat to have been adopted at birth or soon after.
Probably nothing I just said will register if someone has a giant chip of victimhood on his/her shoulder. Hopefully it will give cause to pause. Your life could have been far more horrific. Make peace with the little child within you by reframing your experiences to empower you.